The Power of Food

“Food doesn’t soothe, but the intention does.  Where love stops, chicken pot pie can take over.  There is an understanding that while the blender whirls and the oven preheats, the friend in pain is being remembered in her hurt.  The cook is thinking of her, wondering how she is faring, what she is experiencing.  While friends cook, they slide their feet into the shoes of the hurting mom in order to participate a bit in the pain she feels.  One mother to another.  While I bake, give me some of your troubles and I will carry them as best I can, is what the activity sends as intention.  I can’t be with you, but I can be like you in some way.  Our common bond as mothers is that we must cook for loved ones.  So I will cook for you now, says that friend.  I can pretend that you are with me and that I can make life better for you.  So let me in, says the food.” –  quote taken from The 10 Habits of Happy Mothers: Reclaiming our Passion, Purpose, and Sanity by Meg Meeker

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On Tuesday, the day started out like any other.  In the afternoon we headed out to run some errands, but after one stop something did not feel right.  My next stop was the hospital emergency room.  I was pretty sure I was having a heart attack.  After several tests and several hours, I was told that my left lung had partially collapsed.  There is not a good medical reason for this happening.  Although not life threatening, it was extremely painful and scary.  I am now back home, resting and waiting to see if my lung will re-inflate on its own.

It’s moments like these, that you realize the power of family, friends  and prayer.  It only took a couple of phone calls to put into action a tribe of helpers.  An amazing friend headed to the hospital to help out with the boys, my mom headed south two hours to take over and Doug headed home from a business trip.

And then, the talk of food began.  An amazing group of moms, that I have only known for a year, put together a rotation of hot meals for our family.  My mom, mother in law and sister put together a rotation of visits to offer extra help with the boys.

I feel extremely blessed and thankful for the loved ones in my life.  It is nice to be home!


  • LittleGoldenFox
    March 11, 2012 at 1:16 pm

    you are an amazing lady, and you would do the same for your friends as well as strangers!! so glad you are home and you, “Reap What You Sow” so you obviously have planted a garden of kindness and love!!

    • Lucy Jane
      March 11, 2012 at 4:44 pm

      Thank you! And thanks for being such a wonderful friend. :-)

    • Amber
      March 11, 2012 at 7:31 pm

      Little Golden Fox,

      I also thank you. As someone who has learned mostly about you through stories, the second I was told you were helping I knew our friend was in the best hands. Thank you from all of us who could not be there and were with her in prayer and LOTS of worries.

      Lucy…you are well loved because of who you are as a person, mom, wife, and friend. Please take care of yourself.

      • Lucy Jane
        March 11, 2012 at 7:46 pm

        Oh, you girls are going to make me cry! I better not do that or my other lung might collapse…in all seriousness, I feel completely blessed by the friendship I have in my life. I am a rich lady!

  • Kendra
    March 12, 2012 at 5:05 am

    Oh my gosh, how scary! So sorry to hear that. I can’t imagine the pain… :( Take care of yourself! So glad to hear you have a tribe of helpers to help you out!
    xoxo Kendra

  • Tonya
    March 12, 2012 at 9:47 pm

    Oh how scary, especially with your littles around. Praying for a fast recovery for you!!

  • Jill
    March 14, 2012 at 7:55 am

    That is such a good quotation– exactly right. Having been on the receiving end, too, it is such a powerful force, this gesture that ultimately says, “We love you, stay with us, keep eating.” So simple and funny. Glad to see you and hear that you’re hanging in. Keep taking care of yourself and call on us when needed. Always! jk PS Just don’t do meal reviews on your blog– unless they are rave. Tell me in person first. You know I am a little self-conscious about my remedial status in the domestic realm. haha

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